For as long as I can remember, I’ve disliked New Year. It started as just a feeling that it was a bit creepy. Don’t ask me why, but it sends shivers down my spine. Perhaps it’s linked to the Millennium and all the fear surrounding the “so-called” Millennium bug, which let’s face it was the biggest anti-climax ever! At just 13, I was pretty young and impressionable though. The fear of the nation probably had a pretty huge (albeit ridiculous!) impact on me.
As I’ve grown older, I started to make New Years Resolutions. In my early teens, these were things such as “stop biting my nails” (I still bite them at 31), “ditch the shit friends” (just about nailed that one in my late 20’s), to “lose some damn weight” in my early 20’s”(still struggling).
Every year I’d set myself up for failure.
Then social media became a “thing”. Enter the annual statuses that start to appear during December of:
“2015 can do one!”
“2014 has been crap, 2015 will be my year!”
and the classic:
I’m ashamed to admit, I’ve been guilty of these – in particular the last one, and it’s only in the last two or three years that my mindset has changed, and I no longer place this significance on re-starting the calendar.
So as you can see, my dislike of New Year is completely associated with wishing away the rest of the year because of a few crap moments, beating myself up for not being enough, planning ways to make me “more”, waiting for the start of the year to make these changes and more or less immediately failing.
The truth is, you don’t need a new day, week, month or year to start making it “Your Time”. Why don’t we do it this minute? Right now?
Now is our time if you want it to be. But YOU need to make it that.
We should stop dwelling on the petty shit and feeling so hard done by for no real reason. Give time and effort to stuff that really matters to you.
Why can’t we learn to be grateful for what we have because there is ALWAYS someone worse off than you. And there’s someone worse off than them.
Most importantly, you are enough as you are! That doesn’t mean to say that we shouldn’t aim to improve ourselves – we should all do that. It makes life so much more fulfilling. But this should not just be because it’s a new year.
Let’s make 2018 the year we make stuff happen and the year we’re a little kinder to ourselves. We have a lifetime, which isn’t as long as it sounds but we’d all enjoy the ride a little more if we were a bit kinder to ourselves, stopped wishing our lives away and stopped waiting for a new week, month or year to make ourselves a better human being.
Happy New Year to all of you 🙂